Knowing yourself before knowing other people

Knowing yourself before knowing other people
mark by mark

Making certain decisions, discovering your preferences and learning about your personality before you start meeting new friends in London will make the friendship process easier. If youre new to London and are feeling lonely then taking some alone time to figure out your goals and desires might be the last thing you want to do. However, it could really aid any new friendships as you will have a good idea of what your values, likes and dislikes are, and will also feel more clear about what you want from the friendship.

What kind of friends in London are you looking for?

The kind of friendship youre looking for will depend on a number of factors. Perhaps youre happy with the circle of friends you have from home so are only looking to find people to hang out with once a week or so. Alternatively, you may be looking for closer relationships. Deciding what kind of relationships you would like to have in advance will help you achieve those friendships sooner.

The kind of person you want as a friend is also important to think about. Do you want to meet people who are similar to old friends in your home country or city or do you want to mix with personalities that are a bit different? Reading our article on personality types might help you figure out what type you are and who youll be most compatible with.

Discover your london

Using your first couple of weeks in the city to explore and develop new interests and hobbies will put you in a good position to meet new friends in London. With a chance to find your feet first, youll already have your own life here before making new friends. Without that time to get settled, there is a risk that you might feel like your friendships have to work out in order for you to be happy here. This could make new friendships very pressured and ultimately will do more harm than good.

London is an exciting city and it is important to give yourself time to get used to the pace of life here. Whether youve come from a rural village or another city, youll need time to adjust. There is so much to see, hear and experience in the city, most people shut off a portion of their senses to avoid sensory overload. However, it is important to reconnect with your experiences and feelings at a time when youre not at risk of being overwhelmed. Time by yourself can be useful for this.

Future goals

Knowing what it is youre looking for, what you enjoy and what you want to get out of your time in London will help you develop self-confidence and trust your judgement and feelings. Living in London is a great opportunity and it is important to make the most of it. Your choices here could greatly influence your career and lifestyle. While future goals are always changeable, setting some personal goals before meeting new people in London will enable you to begin new friendships with a clear mind and an idea of what lies ahead.



by mark at 16:41, friday january 08

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